Electronic Mail - the nemesis of personal communication

January 1997
The other day a friend of mine sent me a mail asking for some sample file for latex. I did see the mail immediately (i have the beeping xbiff in one corner of the screen) but was busy day dreaming so decided to send a reply later. In he walks a couple of minutes later and says, "hey why dont u send me that file". I was a bit surprised to see him. Though his office is next to mine i thought he must have been sending the mail from some other lab on campus. He says, "yeah, i was next door, but wanted to send a mail rather than walkup".

Hmmm, I guess email decreases the ambulatory functions of the body. But he didn't even think of calling me up (we do have a telephone in each office).

I just can't understand why people do this. It takes all the fun out of communication. You talk to a keyboard and screen than a person. All that a person becomes is a mail alias. As a saying on the net goes - You must be a graduate student if you talk to your roommate using email.

email is great! email is free! email can be read when wanted! email can be sent to 100 at a time!

email is definitely great. But it still is text on a terminal. I can never express myself properly when writing emails inspite of having good writing skills (ok! ok! if not good atleast passable). I have to add punctuations like !! or @#@$#$#@$ or the good old smileys ( :-) ;-) ) to describe my feelings when i am writing something. So i dont actually concentrate on what I am saying but rather on whether i am using the right comments so that the other person does not misunderstand me. Its just too artificial a medium for anything other than impersonal factual data messages.

Agreed, its just not possible to talk to everyone personally. Graham Bell to the rescue. I think even talking on the phone is enough for lots of reasons. Though you cant read the face you can still read the voice. I like to talk to people on the phone rather than email. Text on screen paints a completely different picture of the person. It takes a very experienced person to read emails (I mean estimating the personality based on emails). The only advantage of email is the avoidance of freudian slip, which is good when you want to make sure your boss does not misunderstand you, but not when you are talking to your boyfriend.

I long for those undergraduate days, back in India when i used to walk into professors offices. I still try to do that unless the professors drive me away (dont tell these things to my professors please!). A spoken sentence is worth 100 written sentences!

I dont hate email in general. Actually its like IV feed without which i actually feel restless and irritated (classical symptoms of addiction). I guess i will be getting a taste of the withdrawl symptoms when i go back home and dont have access to email. I subscribe to around 5 or 6 mailing lists (jokes, news headlines, software discussion lists) just so that i have something to read daily. But my heart leaps up when i behold the ringing of the telephone....


I have been maintaining mailing lists for various groups for sometime. I hate sending those group mails with a 100 names at the front which have to be painfully scrolled through to get to the actual mail. I also dont like seeing "Undisclosed recipients" in the To: fields as it deems secrecy, a concept against the whole WWW and internet. So here is a program i wrote to send a personal mail to all people in a list(a file of email addresses) - mail_program. But it still lacks a personal touch so I enhanced it so that it says "Hi nameXXX, ". Feel free to borrow it and use it - pers_mail. But dont ever use it for personal friends groups. My friends latched onto to what was happening quickly enough and they stopped replying to my broadcast mails. I did write an advanced version of above pers_mail program but its under limited distribution, send me a mail if you want it.
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